If I count the years I've been single and dating we're looking at around seven. That may not sound like a lot of years but if you're actively dating it can feel like a century. I've tried everything from blind dates, speed dating, numerous dating sites (I'm embarrassed with the amount of money I have spent on them. I could probably have bought myself an expensive handbag or take a trip to Italy!) But at the end of the day I am eternally optimistic that I will meet someone and develop a long term relationship. Getting to that point on the other hand is hellish at times!
After going on a string of bad dates, one may find them contemplating celibacy. I have on numerous occasions proclaimed to never date again! It's a fucking jungle out there and the rules have changed. What is with the three date rule? Google it - it exists. Now a days sex is expected, if not given, on date three. I decided not too long ago to throw my standards and morals to the way side and tested out this three date rule. Guess what? Never got a fourth date! And it did not surprise me. But I liked him and decided to give this new way of dating a try. Yeah I won't be doing that again!
The rules, or lack there of, have all but completely disappeared in 2012. I'm not touting dating should be a game of chess but what i have learned this past year of dating is it is. Dating is a game, and if you don't play it, or don't play it well, you're going to lose. Not all the time but the majority of us will. I have thrown out all of my "rules" trying to be more of a modern woman, or more available and guess what...it ain't working!
We women have so many different outlets on dating advice. Cosmo, books, Google, etc... No wonder why we're, or shall I say I, am so confused! One article says one night stands can lead to a relationship, another will say wait three months before having sex. Call him, it's ok to be the aggressor, men like that. Then you're told do not pursue at all. I thought I found a happy medium between the two but I'm starting to think differently.
Dating is hard, meeting and developing a good,healthy relationship is even harder. Maintaining one for years is the hardest.
You know I write a lot about bad dates, mainly because they are funny. But lately I've been more and more disappointed with myself, with men and with the game that I need to go back to what works for Val and fuck what the books and magazines say. At the end of the day you have to if not be happy (which I hope you all are) but at least content with yourself.
There are always the assisted living places. I'm told there are just rows of guys with their bottles of Viagra in hand just waiting to have a good time.
ReplyDeleteLMAO if things continue to go the way they have been I may be hitting up Sunrise Living!
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